Did it start before high school? I’m not sure but at some point in some girls’ lives they liked a boy and that boy liked another girl. Instead of finding a boy that likes her, what does she do… dislike the girl that was chosen. Female rivalry, sadly it’s alive and well among women of all ages.
It’s clear to everyone but her, the problem is NOT with the other woman but with her man. Why is it so easy to blame another woman for the short comings of your man’s promises to you? Why dislike someone you don’t know just because they’ve caught the eye of your sweetheart and become relevant? Some women simply find it easier to blame the other woman than to require change from their man. Instead of holding him accountable for his actions, they engage in a laundry list of behaviors:
- stalking the other woman’s social media
- getting the other woman’s contact information from their man’s phone
- calling the other woman to announce yourself as his
- commenting negatively about the other woman for all the world to see on your social media
- confronting the other woman however she can
All those behaviors and more while your man comforts the other woman and tells her YOU are just crazy. What do you gain besides everybody in your business and still as loyal as ever to him?
Hunting down other women because they gain the favor of your man is like playing the Hunger Games. You hope to shoot down every other woman in the running and end up as the last one. Your strategy is flawed. The problem is, you don’t have enough ammunition (and sometimes not even the right ammunition) to get rid of all the competition. The problem is not the competition, the problem is the man placing you within a competition and you are helping HIM to win. You see now he gets to have you and all the others he chooses to indulge in. And if two or a few of you fight over him, then he gets even more. He gets the best of you and the best of them because that’s what people in a competition give….their best. He gains all the reward and everyone else involved gains a never-ending fight to be on top.
What should you do if you find yourself with a man giving you broken promises and showing affections toward another woman? You should blame no one but him and decide if you want to share or wish him well. You should know that what he doesn’t give you another man will and not be afraid to let go if that’s what you want. You should know if you choose to stay then he need not enjoy exclusivity from you either. You should know that another woman is NOT responsible for the upkeep of your connection to your man. You should expect more from yourself than petty antics that still won’t get you what you want. You should know to value yourself enough not to be immature and instead be and handle things intelligently.
Of course all of this is about another woman who is a stranger to you. If the other woman is a family member or a friend…
As always, I encourage you to share your experience or debate mine!!
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